Once you have reached the place in your life where you draw the line in the sand, so to speak, and refuse to put up with others' dysfunctions, you have truly arrived into adulthood. Boy men and girl women, terms I use to describe men and women who have yet to grow up, will act like children. These needy people are still concerned about what others think, they don't take a stand, and are unhappy when they don't get their way even when their wants are not in the best interest of self or those involved. The less you have to deal with the immature, who refuse correction, the better!
Whether you are reading this during a holiday season or not, know that you have a choice, you can either focus on those negative relatives who love being on your radar or you can choose to ignore them and connect with people who are positive. Relatives who make you unhappy need a time-out. We should never force ourselves to do anything with these people that we don't want to do--never! It doesn't matter if there is a blood tie or not. When something is rude, crazy, disgusting, or wicked, it would make sense to feel all sorts of negative emotions about what a relative or relatives is up to. But trouble-making people, will do almost anything to convince you that what they say or do is right and your reaction to it is wrong. Distance yourself! The mind games are unnecessary when you know deep in your heart that someone is wrong.
The good news is these seasons of family unhappiness are temporal depending on the offense. Other times they can seem like forever. Depending on the length of time you allow yourself to be unhappy with these people will affect your personality and how you treat others, so it is best to work to snap out of feelings of disappointment and seek healthy happiness elsewhere. Healthy happiness are the things that don't cost a lot, won't make you sick, won't put you in jail, or cause further unhappiness.
So I close with this, wishing you joy and peace during this time of family storms. May you be blessed with the desires of your heart!
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