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Saturday, October 19, 2013
Are you the emotionally, physically abused daughter or do you know one?
You may know her or be that one who is recovering from all the hardship of being raised by a parent who was emotionally and physically abusive toward you.
From name-calling to harsh punishment over things like: low grades, talking back, being dishonest, crying too much, failing to comprehend commands, or not moving fast enough when an adult demands you act a certain way. You or someone you know may not have the best private or public relationship with others.
People who have not walked in your shoes find it hard to understand why at times you tend to be absent in mind, body, spirit, or all three when interacting with them. Yet, what they fail to realize is that unlike them, what seems like meaningless statements, requests, or facial expressions, trigger emotions deep inside of you that isn’t always polite, nice, sweet, or kind. You just might check out at times and forget for a moment what you were saying or doing.
Sometimes abused female teens and women jump to conclusions, feel like they want to bite someone’s head off (especially during the menstural cycle or menopause), and might even cut the offenders out of their lives for what appears to be the littlest of things. For the one who has been abused, negative thoughts and reactions are normal. For onlookers, they determine one is crazy, strange, or needs some mental help like yesterday.
A strong-willed daughter, who might not be close to her father or mother, is going to function in society with hang-ups and handicaps. She will go on to have somewhat healthy relationships, and take care of herself with proper guidance. If anything, for some abused women they do far better than others who were raised in so-called normal homes, because in their minds, they have something to prove. Dad said she was dumb and wouldn't do well in life, mom doubted her child was mentally stable, relatives found her peculiar, friends didn't quite understand her, yet she survives!
Survivors of emotional and physical abuse desire to be better than their controlling, abusive parents who most often had a mental disorder or two of their own, but may have never been diagnosed. The formerly abused want to treat others kindly and live a life that is relatively drama free! They aren’t asking for much, but for some women, trouble tends to follow them and remind them of their ugly past.
Present demons have a way of tempting the emotionally wounded daughter to hurt herself or someone else by picking with her. They find faults where there are none, play mind games, deny insults and assaults, and act as if everything is okay when they are the creators of the dysfunction. Therefore, the emotionally wounded daughter is once again disturbed by those who she thought loved her.
It seems that some women just can’t seem to come up higher or get a break from emotional turmoil. They are attracting men and women like themselves, because sometimes what is familiar appears like it is okay when it is not. Maybe for a time some abused women appear like they have a better command over their emotions, but when triggered, look out, all hell is going to break lose!
How can one keep his or her daughter out of danger from self and others? Well for starters, watch what you say and do. Try to stay positive and do what is right, see yourself for who you really are when she points out how you might have hurt her. Hurt people tend to repeat the same abuse or react in ways that look similar to their abusers if they never got any help for their personal demons.
Reader, if you have unresolved issues, you can’t help others, not even your own children. They will see your faults and emulate them if you don’t bother to open up your mouth and say, “I am wrong. You don’t want to act like me or make the decisions I have made in life. Let me show you some good examples.” Seek out a support system that can give you all immediate help.
Most self-righteous, prideful individuals, that don’t want to be held accountable for causing others harm, will refuse to humble themselves and admit failure. They rather blame a helpless child for their negative reactions. They prefer to look the other way when accused of unrighteous behavior. They rather ignore those who say, “I remember when you…” The controlling parent says, “Get over it…don’t hold things against me, I’m not perfect. Think about the good I have done for you!”
Telling someone to move on when they don’t know how to or can’t is not going to do anything more than create a deeper wedge in the relationship.
Nicholl McGuire Author and Poet http://laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com
Her books include:
Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic https://www.createspace.com/3437273
When Mothers Cry https://www.createspace.com/3393499
Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com/3332346
Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/904839
Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3113926
From name-calling to harsh punishment over things like: low grades, talking back, being dishonest, crying too much, failing to comprehend commands, or not moving fast enough when an adult demands you act a certain way. You or someone you know may not have the best private or public relationship with others.
People who have not walked in your shoes find it hard to understand why at times you tend to be absent in mind, body, spirit, or all three when interacting with them. Yet, what they fail to realize is that unlike them, what seems like meaningless statements, requests, or facial expressions, trigger emotions deep inside of you that isn’t always polite, nice, sweet, or kind. You just might check out at times and forget for a moment what you were saying or doing.
Sometimes abused female teens and women jump to conclusions, feel like they want to bite someone’s head off (especially during the menstural cycle or menopause), and might even cut the offenders out of their lives for what appears to be the littlest of things. For the one who has been abused, negative thoughts and reactions are normal. For onlookers, they determine one is crazy, strange, or needs some mental help like yesterday.
A strong-willed daughter, who might not be close to her father or mother, is going to function in society with hang-ups and handicaps. She will go on to have somewhat healthy relationships, and take care of herself with proper guidance. If anything, for some abused women they do far better than others who were raised in so-called normal homes, because in their minds, they have something to prove. Dad said she was dumb and wouldn't do well in life, mom doubted her child was mentally stable, relatives found her peculiar, friends didn't quite understand her, yet she survives!
Survivors of emotional and physical abuse desire to be better than their controlling, abusive parents who most often had a mental disorder or two of their own, but may have never been diagnosed. The formerly abused want to treat others kindly and live a life that is relatively drama free! They aren’t asking for much, but for some women, trouble tends to follow them and remind them of their ugly past.
Present demons have a way of tempting the emotionally wounded daughter to hurt herself or someone else by picking with her. They find faults where there are none, play mind games, deny insults and assaults, and act as if everything is okay when they are the creators of the dysfunction. Therefore, the emotionally wounded daughter is once again disturbed by those who she thought loved her.
It seems that some women just can’t seem to come up higher or get a break from emotional turmoil. They are attracting men and women like themselves, because sometimes what is familiar appears like it is okay when it is not. Maybe for a time some abused women appear like they have a better command over their emotions, but when triggered, look out, all hell is going to break lose!
How can one keep his or her daughter out of danger from self and others? Well for starters, watch what you say and do. Try to stay positive and do what is right, see yourself for who you really are when she points out how you might have hurt her. Hurt people tend to repeat the same abuse or react in ways that look similar to their abusers if they never got any help for their personal demons.
Reader, if you have unresolved issues, you can’t help others, not even your own children. They will see your faults and emulate them if you don’t bother to open up your mouth and say, “I am wrong. You don’t want to act like me or make the decisions I have made in life. Let me show you some good examples.” Seek out a support system that can give you all immediate help.
Most self-righteous, prideful individuals, that don’t want to be held accountable for causing others harm, will refuse to humble themselves and admit failure. They rather blame a helpless child for their negative reactions. They prefer to look the other way when accused of unrighteous behavior. They rather ignore those who say, “I remember when you…” The controlling parent says, “Get over it…don’t hold things against me, I’m not perfect. Think about the good I have done for you!”
Telling someone to move on when they don’t know how to or can’t is not going to do anything more than create a deeper wedge in the relationship.
Nicholl McGuire Author and Poet http://laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com
Her books include:
Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic https://www.createspace.com/3437273
When Mothers Cry https://www.createspace.com/3393499
Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com/3332346
Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/904839
Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3113926
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