Need Assistance with Family Issues?

Around the web there are sites that can help with family issues from substance abuse to unemployment.  Here are some places to help you begin your journey toward some peace.

Online Counseling
Online counseling for couples, relationships, marriage and ...
MyTherapynet.com

Career Issues
Career Counseling, Testing & Professional Level Assessments
Career Counseling Services - Careers.org

Housing Needs
Rental Assistance/U.S. Department of Housing and Urban ...
Low income assistance programs - Need Help Paying Bills

Money Problems
Supplemental Security Income (SSI)
Supplemental Income - FlexJobs
Work From Home Jobs on CareerBuilder.com
WAHM - Official Site
Work From Home Jobs - 10 Best (and Real) Work-At-Home Jobs ...

Personality Disorders
Personality disorders - Mayo Clinic
The 10 Personality Disorders | Psychology Today

Spiritual Motivation (by Family Articles blogger Nicholl McGuire)
NM Enterprise 7 - YouTube

nmenterprise7 - Daily Prayer Card Helps with Learning …

 

Elder Issues

Terminal Illness – Preparing for Death – Dealing with Illness

Medicare.gov Nursing Home Compare

Prescription Drugs & Cold Medicines | National Institute ...

 

List supplied by Nicholl McGuire author of When Mothers Cry, Socially Sweet Privately Cruel Abusive Men and other books.

 

 

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The Family Knows Their Loved One is Troubled But Do You?

You meet, date, or work with someone from a reputable family.  You notice how relatives act toward one or a few relatives that seem to have something a bit odd about them.  The person might appear close to a few members, but the majority don't talk, come around or have much to say.  You wonder what is up with the strange, off-putting ways of some family members.  So you think you will be that one who is nice, kind and friendly to the "weird, crazy" one.

Sometimes family will wrongfully treat the whistle-blowers from a distance, while keeping their mentally handicap, drug-addicts, alcoholics, abusers, thieves, and others close to them.  You can't always tell who is "wild, crazy" until you get to know them.  The handsome man, attractive woman, and others in the family circle aren't always what they appear to be.  While those with common sense are shunned, the relatives in denial about troubled offenders in the family will present them as being "good, great wonderful" until you learn more about them.

Most relatives who don't want to be bothered with truly crazy loved ones will either subtly or boldly let you know, "I don't spend time with them...I don't really know them well...I prefer to mind my own business...We have had to help that one out far too many times.  I would be careful if I were you dealing with..."

When you know some relatives are challenging to deal with, it is always best to keep your distance.  No good deed goes unpunished when you are attempting to help those who are mentally unstable.  When you reach out to family members that even the matriarchs and patriarchs have cautioned you about, you won't win anything more than trouble on your hands.  So watch family cues and keep in mind not everyone is wrong about those relatives who just can't seem to live independently, get a job and keep one, don't do well remaining faithful to partners, struggle with addictions, and more.  There is always more to their stories and good reasons as to why relatives act the way they do.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Say Goodbye to Dad, Tell Me Mother You're Sorry and other books. 

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Your Lying Relatives - Why Do You Put Up with Them?

They post photos up on social networks boasting of people they claim to know real well, tell you stories about life events that supposedly happened, make promises they will do things but don't follow through, and at times remain quiet about truth while letting you believe family lies.  These liars in our families are often exposed sooner or later.  I think of a few who used distractions every time they were called out on their foolishness. 

With smiles on their faces, they talk of other things that have little to do with the lies they have told in an attempt to make you forget about what they said.  These manipulators exaggerate, pretending to know more than what they do.  They say they don't like certain family members, yet they tell these same people much about their lives and others.  Liars in the family come in all shapes and sizes, attend churches, hold leadership positions in organizations, do nice things for others, and appear to be harmless, sweet little old ladies and gentlemen.

Some of you fall for the lies!  You treat the whistleblowers in your family like plagues, because the liars don't want you becoming too close to them.  You are told, "That one is crazy...She doesn't know what she is talking about...You know she is known for...He said that because he is just angry..." But the one the liars speak of is the truth-teller.  Those relatives who expose wrong-doing are shouted down, ignored, made fun of, and cast aside.  It isn't any wonder that some truth-tellers don't come around the family anymore.

The real trouble-makers are those gossiping matriarchs in the family that use food and material wealth to win friends, ignorant patriarchs who have nothing better to do than to enable the liars in the family, and users and abusers who look and dress quite nicely, but on the inside are toxic shooting poison wherever they go.  Every now and again the so-called "nice," "fun" show their true colors, pretending to like, love relatives when they really could care less.

Your lying relatives believe the hype surrounding some of the successful family members, but little do they know that their matches were lying to them!  The prosperous will lie to obtain their wealth, exaggerate events during travels, and send even children to private schools while claiming they can afford them.  Relatives don't always connect the dots to learn that applications were falsified, activities didn't necessarily happen the way they told them, and more.  Lies fly out of mouths like salesmen trying to convince you to buy a lemon for a car.  Most individuals never bother to question liars' shady activities.  Why suddenly does someone who claims to have no money is out buying much?  Why are relatives told one thing, but certificates, paperwork, and other documents reveal a different story?  Most family members unaffected by the lies don't ask questions, but those who believe in holding relatives accountable and are simple weary of their story-telling will!

Don't walk softly around liars, ask for the truth and when it isn't given, it is safe to say you have a liar in your circle, mark them as such and create distance.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Say Goodbye to Dad, Tell Me Mother You're Sorry, When Mothers Cry, and other books. 

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Petty Relatives - Be One Step Ahead Before, During, and After a Dispute

They will get on your nerves, do stupid things, make snide remarks, and participate in deceitful things, people like this are often petty.  If you have a dispute with them, look out!  There are some tips you might want to consider when dealing with them if a quarrel should break out.

1.  Prior to being in the presence of a petty relative, know what you are getting yourself into when you talk with them.  They usually have a history of angering others, so don't think you are special.  The party is over if you should look at them wrong, say something offensive, or make them feel unimportant.  The key to winning with them is don't talk about you, ask questions about them.  Avoid offering your personal opinion especially if it isn't flattering.  Compliment them much.

2.  If a dispute breaks out, you could keep talking and talking, but childish people will only use what they know to get back at you.  At some point, you will realize you are getting no where, so change your attitude, and move out the presence of the petty person.  They will talk to whoever about whatever you said or did, but at least you don't have to continue putting up with their behavior.

3.  Remind yourself why you really shouldn't be breaking bread with the individual, accepting his or her invites, entertaining phone calls, and more.  Shut this person out of your life especially when you don't rely on him or her for anything.  But if you do, gradually redirect your dependence elsewhere and find a support system apart from the immature individual.

More on petty people/relatives...

1.  They are easily irritated, often impatient and can be very rude.

2.  They are more interested in talking about how people look, what they say, and things related to material wealth then thinking about important subjects that matter.

3.  They hate being wrong and will look for ways to make them appear right.  If anyone should talk to these petty people about issues they have had with others, they will come across as righteous, ignorant, and/or harmless.  "I wouldn't know why she acted like that at the party...we have done so much for her.  I couldn't imagine what was going on inside of her head," says the petty relative.  Meanwhile, the individual provoked an argument by saying and doing things to irritate others.

If you should encounter someone like this in your family, do everything in your power not to spend too much time with them over the phone, in-person or elsewhere.  He or she will only bring you down.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Say Goodbye to Dad