They come and go in your life. They show up at family gatherings. They claim they love you and will always be here for you, your family. But how true are they to the words that they speak? When was the last time a trial showed up in your life and you called on your family? What happened? Do you find yourself trying to make a square hole fit into a round peg with these people or do you fit together like a hand in a glove?
Chances are there is some pain, confusion, bitterness, resentment, envy, and more concerning certain relatives, not all. The "bad seeds" are the ones that we find ourselves trying to make sense of their nonsense. We cut off some, while others we keep around for title-sake. Some who carry titles are just as toxic as the bad seeds, but we put up with them for a time. But one day there will come a time, when we will grow older, get bolder and there is no putting up with anything!
What is certain about all families in this life, they live and then they die. Some we will miss while others we will secretly rejoice (as heartless as this might sound), but is so true! There is no sugar-coating what we know about some people. We try to say nice things about them, be polite in public, and don't rock the boat. However, there will always be that breaking point when one gets tired of being used, abused, forgotten, ignored, or treated more like a thing then a human being.
As one relative told me some years ago, "If you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything at all." I think this rule applies to some things, but not all. Some issues have got to be said in order to begin a healing process. You can't very well continue to allow someone to mistreat you just because they are "family." It is insane and this is why some relatives never heal, if anything, they are burdened by the weight of someone else's evil just because they won't let go of titles. There are those moments when truth is prohibited due to one issue or the other, but then there are those times when one is free to say how he or she truly feels. Of course, some things can't be done without some degree of consequence, so we prepare. But what really matters is saying what needs to be said before eyes are closed forever.
So I leave you with this, can you honestly say anything good about your family and if you can, is it honest?
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual wisdom at YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
Chances are there is some pain, confusion, bitterness, resentment, envy, and more concerning certain relatives, not all. The "bad seeds" are the ones that we find ourselves trying to make sense of their nonsense. We cut off some, while others we keep around for title-sake. Some who carry titles are just as toxic as the bad seeds, but we put up with them for a time. But one day there will come a time, when we will grow older, get bolder and there is no putting up with anything!
What is certain about all families in this life, they live and then they die. Some we will miss while others we will secretly rejoice (as heartless as this might sound), but is so true! There is no sugar-coating what we know about some people. We try to say nice things about them, be polite in public, and don't rock the boat. However, there will always be that breaking point when one gets tired of being used, abused, forgotten, ignored, or treated more like a thing then a human being.
As one relative told me some years ago, "If you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything at all." I think this rule applies to some things, but not all. Some issues have got to be said in order to begin a healing process. You can't very well continue to allow someone to mistreat you just because they are "family." It is insane and this is why some relatives never heal, if anything, they are burdened by the weight of someone else's evil just because they won't let go of titles. There are those moments when truth is prohibited due to one issue or the other, but then there are those times when one is free to say how he or she truly feels. Of course, some things can't be done without some degree of consequence, so we prepare. But what really matters is saying what needs to be said before eyes are closed forever.
So I leave you with this, can you honestly say anything good about your family and if you can, is it honest?
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual wisdom at YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
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