Most likely family members who have problems with others will not be positive about anything that one might share about another. For example, if you were to describe a favorite relative to a trouble-making family member like this, "She is a nice person, she looks good, she helps you and others, and she has done well in life." The bitter, unforgiving, envious, or angry family member will have something to say that is the total opposite or downplay what you say. You are not permitted to say anything positive when in the presence of a negative relative.
Some people have got into screaming matches, physical fights, and became distant from relatives as a result of a person who has nothing better to do than to blow most statements out of proportion. There have been family divisions that have lasted for decades because someone was offended, lied, or exaggerated a story or something that was done supposedly to another.
Whether at a holiday event, living with a relative, working with one, or attending the same church, watch as well as pray that God will cover your conversation with all and cut your conversation short with those who love taking what people say and putting their own spin on it!
Nicholl McGuire author of When Mothers Cry and Know Your Enemy: The Christians Critic. Also, check out her blog: http://laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com