Choose Your Circle Wisely

A family can make or break you if you are ill-prepared, distracted, mentally challenged, or something else might be going on with you.  Those who are able to have it all from family to home ownership do so because of discipline and a strong desire to stick out with their families come hell or high water.  But what they don't say is that they are highly selective about who is permitted to enter into there social circles. 

So when you notice the phone calls and invites aren't showing up at your door step, you are not a part of the cliché.  It doesn't make it right or wrong it just is.  Some individuals do very well a part from their families of origin while others thrive when they are around.  To each his or her own, but whatever you choose to do with your life, choose wisely!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Tell Me Mother You're Sorry and other family conflict eBooks.

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No one cares but you.  No one hurts like you.  No one fights like you.  You can be your own worse enemy when it comes to your family.

When you feel like you just can't do much more for your difficult family members, why do it?  You know how they will respond to your comments, suggestions, thoughts, and more.  Why open your mouth?  You know how they will behave if you should reveal private things about your life.  You have a history with these people and it may not be nice, pleasant, loving or generous.  So why work yourself up this weekend and the next fighting with people who may not like or respect you.

Sometimes we ask for trouble because we simply don't know when to throw the towel in when it comes to our troubled relatives.  There is no going along to get along any more when you know all that you do is upsetting not only you, but your loved ones too.  Chances are those closest to you are sick and tired of hearing you talk about your family.  Put the brakes on some things concerning them and be inspired to do something different apart from those you are simply tired of.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Say Goodbye to Dad and other helpful books.  You can also listen to wisdom by this inspirational speaker on self-improvement and spiritual topics.

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Disturbing Family News: 4 Tips on What to Do or Not

Just when you think you know your family, along comes something that shocks, sickens, and makes you wish you were never connected with certain people.  How does one manage to get over such things?  How do you reach that point of no return with some troublesome relatives?

Well after many years observing people go through much with difficult relatives, including myself, I can say that there are several things that I have noticed when it comes to dealing with challenging family members and their disturbing news.

1.  Those in shock often talk to the relative who is the main character in said events or others involved.  They allow the person or kinfolk to share their side of the story no matter how bad.

2.  The hurting family members don't always offer assistance or want to hear details especially when they know full well they aren't the least bit interested in coming to any one's aid.

3.  Shocked and angry relatives will advise close family members and friends to stop enabling the problem relative which also might include shunning the person and others.

4.  They avoid re-connecting with both the difficult person and those affiliated to him or her until issues die down or they simply disconnect for good.

Sometimes the best way to handle any shocking information is to not react publicly.  The more attention you draw to the mayhem, the more likely you will be sucked in by it.  Consider your relationship with the person, who brought the information to you and whether it is really necessary to discuss anything with other loved ones.  If the news is very shameful, it is always best to keep a lid on it and distance yourself from the person and the problem if you know you can't handle him or her and all that comes with the drama unfolding.  Think ahead.

Nicholl McGuire

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