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Forgiveness + Love = Peace

You can do it, forgive.  Simply let go of the need to want to pay someone back for hurting you.  Don't hold on to the fault, but also don't play into the hands again of a broken person either.  Love the soul contained within the body.  Although wounded, God loves the individual anyway.  When you simultaneously love and forgive, there you will find peace.  -- Nicholl McGuire

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People who are mentally ill don't know that they are.  If they detect something is not quite right with themselves, they work hard to cover up their insanity.  All of their tactics of blaming, denying, minimizing, abusing, and using others are excellent tools to keep the unsuspecting in the dark. 

Sometimes it takes years for hurting family members to separate the truth from the lies, but by the time this happens victims want nothing to do with them. 

"After all these years you believed I was the crazy one when your parents were really the nuts!"

"You thought I had something to do with that?  Your crazy brother was at fault!"

"Why didn't you ever bother to pick up the phone and find out what exactly I supposedly said or what occurred over at the house?"

Some partially insane folks have enough sense to create smokescreens so if you aren't discerning and don't bother questioning what you think you might know based on what they told you, you will believe almost anything.

The next time a loved one tells you something, think before you speak, "What really happened?  What did he/she do the reason why her children, siblings, etc. are distant?  Why doesn't my relative do more with her life besides talk negatively about others?"

Hold your judgment and know that with some people they don't want you to ever find out just how cold-bloodied and cruel they really are.  Watch as well as pray!

Nicholl McGuire has had her share of experiences with narcissists, substance abusers, and those who walk on the dark side.  Check out her practical guides at this site.

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With all the merry-making some parents, grandparents and other adults are not paying much attention to children, but they should be especially in homes where there are many rooms, wide open spaces to hide, and yards that can't be seen from windows.

So many children end up being sexually abused because parents, who are high on drugs and alcohol, are not watching them!  These kids are lured by strange adults, ornery teens and abused children to go into parked cars, dark rooms, basements, and other hiding places away from watchful eyes.  Children are bullied, sexually abused, teased, pressured to drink or use drugs, and more in those areas.

Who will hear screams when music is being played loudly?  Who will notice when children are away to long with an Uncle, Cousin, Aunt or someone else?  Who is watching when kids are so-called "just playing"?

Keep children in view or else cry later.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry and shares thoughtful wisdom on Spreaker.