You notice the photographs of what appears to be happy
couples posted on the social networking sites you have joined.
You see them walking down the street holding
hands.
You are in awe of your favorite
relatives’ relationships and you secretly wish that you could have what they
have.
Yet, before you get too lost into
what you think is a happy relationship, know that many couples have their share
of issues and if you were to be a fly on the wall you would be shocked at what
you saw.
- A
partner’s personal body hygiene.
Although most women wouldn’t want
the world to know their partners stink, some have gone publicly with what they
discovered.
All that glitters doesn’t
necessarily smell good so you might have read somewhere online with some
celebrities.
A person’s hygiene says a
lot about how they manage (or not) other areas of their lives.
- Past
issues like: cheating, threats of divorce, deaths in the family, financial
woes, jail time, etc.
Sure, the seemingly sweetheart
couple appears to be in love now, but you would never know how much they
endured in order to get to that place.
They wouldn’t tell most relatives, because sometimes keeping major issues
private draw couples close rather than far apart.
- An incident(s)
where one or both started physically fighting.
It would make sense why no one
would ever hear about a couple’s physical altercations.
With the threat of going to jail as a result
of dating or domestic violence, both would promise each other never to breathe
a word.
Besides, if some relatives found
out, the partner doing the fighting just might catch a bad case of being beaten
to death depending on the family.
- Awful
lies that were told and continue to happen.
Disputes between couples about
lying are all-too-popular from lying about what one views on the internet to
where he or she went while a partner was sleeping.
Those in denial would never want to let
family and friends know that they were right about their partner being sneaky,
irresponsible, untrustworthy, etc. so wicked lies are often covered up until
something really bad happens.
- Appearance
flaws.
Bad teeth, an unflattering part on
the body or scar tissue from an accident, sometimes no one knows about these
things but a partner.
- A
child or children really not being one or both of the parents.
This is one of the best kept
secrets for a time.
However, sooner or
later a child’s features will reveal the truth.
From skin tone to eye shape, something just isn’t right.
Observers will talk, but the couple will
refuse to tell the story.
Sometimes
secrets like this do far more harm than good.
- Weird
fetishes, routines, and sexual desires.
As handsome as a man might look
seated beside his beautiful wife, one may never know just how strange this
couple might be behind closed doors.
Some couples participate in some very strange behavior that would leave
many of us speechless.
Others have
annoying habits that we would never tolerate if our partners were to do
them.
Then there are those bizarre
sexual things that happen at their home—you know the kind that you might want
to be careful where you sit when visiting.
You also might want to be mindful of eating there too.
- An
abortion or miscarriage.
This is a painful secret that many
women and men have gone to their graves with.
No one wants to be reminded of something that occurred in their lives
that they may never be forgiven for, so these couples who have experienced such
things, stay quiet.
- Criminal
issues like: stealing, rape, falsifying documents, fighting someone or
group outside of the relationship, recklessly driving, etc.
Whether one or both in the
relationship paid a fine or did some jail time, they wouldn’t want others to
know about what happened for fear of being judged.
- A
threat or attempt to commit suicide or other mental or physical condition.
Couples who have been through much
emotional and physical turmoil usually don’t want anyone to know about their
challenges.
They find it difficult being
around people who have not experienced what they have been going through.
Some not only keep secrets but avoid coming
around family and friends during tough times for any number of reasons.
If you find that you are in a
relationship like the one described or know a couple like this, do take the
time to be understanding about how others might feel. If you are typically open about your life and
begin to shut others out, they will react negatively toward you, worry, and may
even drop by your residence unexpectedly depending on how close they might be
to you.
There is nothing wrong about
keeping your life with your partner private.
If more couples did, they just might discover that they will be much
happier.
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