Some
grandparents feel good when they see their family
members, while others not so much.
Adult
sons, daughters and children have their lives and sometimes those lives are
purposely isolated for good reason or not-so good ones.
Consider what has recently occurred to cause
sons and daughters and their families to not call or come around.
What life changes might they be
experiencing?
Have you bothered to
discuss what you are feeling lately about their distance?
1. The
parents are having difficulties and they don’t want your
grandchildren to
spill the beans.
Arguments, physical fights, silent
treatment, and other issues that couples face with one another are not ignored
by watchful children.
They listen to the
disputes and if bothered by them, will not hesitate to share what they know
with relatives.
A couple who wants their
battles to remain private will be less likely to drop children off with
grandparents.
2. Schedules
have become busier and there just isn’t time or possibly patience to
visit.
Unfortunately to visit with some
grandparents can be overwhelming especially when they have personality issues
and are demanding expecting sons, daughters and grandchildren to assist with
numerous tasks while visiting.
Some
grandparents hope that relatives will stay all day at their residences.
A busy family with a busy life has little
time for long visits and even less patience to deal with moody relatives, so
they reason it’s just easier to avoid them.
3. The
grandparents have not shown a genuine interest in their sons and
daughters’ families.
There are those grandparents who
just don’t want to be bothered or reminded of how excitable children can
be.
They also don’t want to deal with
the burden that comes with caring for them.
This is why some grandparents make a point to leave the home, busy their
selves, and do other things so that they don’t have to baby-sit grandchildren.
4. Some
grandparents are often critical, bossy, or nosy.
Negative comments about what one
looks like, demanding that visitors help with household chores, and asking too
many personal questions will create a tensed atmosphere.
When this happens, unruly children can be challenging
to manage.
Therefore, to save a parent
any additional headaches from both difficult grandparents and hyper children,
they rather just stay home.
5. Unchecked
health ailments have pushed sons and daughters’ away rather than draw the
family near.
Stressed adult sons and daughters
and grandchildren are incapable of dealing with the emotions that come when a
grandparent is ill or dying.
When this
happens, they tend to become distant. If you should notice these
behaviors happening in your own family, this is no cause for alarm.
Rather than respond angrily, make snide
remarks to your relatives’ faces or behind their backs, or attempt to make sons
and daughters feel guilty about not coming around as much, live your life.
If you believe in a Creator, pray for
them.
You never know what life
challenges they are trying to manage personally and professionally.
When they are ready to visit, you just might
be pleasantly surprised.
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