Much of the drama centers around individuals who simply refuse to behave. The host spends many hours and much money planning for the ingrates who show up while later having his or her regrets for even getting the family together in the first place.
What most people can do to stay out of the family drama is keep quiet on the controversial topics and avoid the statements that are supposed to be out of fun or love. Think of family get-togethers like professional social mixes, you wouldn't say whatever you want at those functions for fear that you might lose your job, so why do it at a family holiday event that might cost you your relationship with favorite relatives?
When we think of family holiday events, we often think of the holiday cheer that we see on television screens. Of course, we would like that too, but oftentimes that's not what we get. Instead, we notice the ungrateful child or adult in the group sighing about something he or she did or didn't get. Those who complain a lot about everything from how much something costs to how much gift-wrapping paper is on the floor tend to add to holiday challenges with their negativity. The holidays isn't all merry and bright as one might think when troubled people show up to trouble others.
This is why choosing carefully who you and your family might spend the holidays with is crucial. Bad memories don't go away easily when celebrating supposedly good times with bad kinfolk. Family don't always forgive and forget and when an offense occurs, intimate relationships and generations are impacted!
When you are the host you must think twice who you might invite to your holiday celebrations. Many objections coming from relatives regarding certain unfavorable family members is cause for concern, take heed. You don't want to participate in anything you may later regret.
Have a wonderful holiday season free f the family drama!
Nicholl McGuire
Blog Owner of It's All in the Family and Author of When Mothers Cry
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