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Tuesday, October 9, 2012

When Family Work Together

Credit: Nicholl McGuire
 
It can be a blessing and a curse working with family.  When I attended this outdoor event in Columbus GA, I noticed that most of these Tahiti dancers, as seen in the photographs, were related.  I can only imagine what it was like behind the scenes preparing for this hour long event. 

"No, you are doing it wrong...get it together...stop slacking...do it like this...keep that up and you won't be in the group!  Okay, now we got it--yeah showtime!" 

There were young as well as older dancers moving hips, bouncing, jumping, etc.  After standing in the hot sun for about 30 minutes or so, I couldn't help but think about my own family doing things together as far back as I could remember.  They were making large dinners, serving, decorating, selling stuff, building, painting, errand running, etc. for others.  Relatives worked together (or apart depending on whether they could get along or not) on some project or event and there was always moments of negativity showing up making one want to cover their mouths, ears or run away!  I recall the tension in the atmosphere being so bad at times and I thought to myself, "Why bother?  Why keep doing the same thing year after year with people you know you don't like or get along with?" 

I think sometimes people permit tradition, especially during holidays, to override common sense.  There comes a point prior to a holiday or some other time of family togetherness when you are sitting back thinking about that "Wonderful time when.." that you should really be thinking about the headache, heartache, yelling, and all the ugliness that came along with the family event.  You should ask yourself, "Is it really worth it?"  Now for some, they would say, "Yes" because all they see is how they might benefit.  But for others, they should say, "No."  No tradition, person, place or thing is worth causing one a potential heart attack, a physical fight, loss of money, or something else just because someone or a group thinks that it is.  Be wise before you plan this holiday season!

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