There are some people you just can’t trust because they have
done things like: chronically lied to you, repeatedly cheated,
shared your personal information with others after you asked them not to, or talked negatively about you
behind your back especially to those who dislike you. Yet, some of us will
continue to be charmed by these people and hold on to them because of their titles such as: mother, father, sister and brother or for sentimental reasons.
We will continue to forgive and sometimes
forget about what they have done to us, only to be disappointed time and time again. These people can be
disrespectful and manipulative.
Sometimes we need to be reminded who to say no to when approached and
mean it.
One. The person who
never says anything about his or her personal life, but loves listening to what
information you might have about others.
Never having too much of anything to say, the quiet
individual can’t be trusted too much with details about your life. Although he or she appears to care about our
feelings and the things we share about our lives, the reality is that the mind
is keeping record of what we say.
Eventually, this person will use information later against you
especially if they are offended by you in some way. For example, the infraction could have been a
comment you made about his or her appearance, spending, marital relationship,
or children, the minute the door is open, the floodgate of information is
lifted then shared with others. This
person becomes your enemy.
Two. The one who can
be bought with money and gifts.
You can keep this person as your “friend” for a limited time
only. However, the day you stop giving
or say, “No” to him or her is the day when he or she is going to talk
negatively about you to others.
Definitely not someone you can trust.
Remember, he or she is relying on you, you really have no need for him
or her as a personal confidante.
Three. The funny guy
or story-teller who enjoys getting a reaction from listeners.
Big mouth, comedic types of folks use information shared for
their next act sometimes with others.
They get a rush making people react to what they say. Your secrets might slip out of a big mouth
especially if they are good ones. You
don’t ever share personal details about your life with someone who makes a
living talking to others and producing material unless you could care less
about your stories getting out.
Four. The relative
who is always in need of money, boasts about money, or owes you money.
Money-loving and desperate people tend to be heartless and
cruel. They really have no use for
people, places and things unless they can benefit them in some way. These type of family members will do almost
anything for cash. From creating division
between relatives to telling lies to keep quiet about things that they have
seen and heard, a relative who needs money, owes money or already has it isn’t
listening too much when you have your own share of troubles.
Five. The family
member who doesn’t believe he or she is ever in the wrong.
Approach this relative about his or her negative ways and
they will argue first rather than admit he or she is not right. You can’t trust this person with any
information because he or she will turn on you like a snake if you so much as
share your flaws. “Don’t tell me
anything about what I do, remember you told me…” he/she says. Always keep your personal business to your
self when dealing with the self-righteous who believe they are just as perfect,
if not, more than God.
Six. Those loved ones
who have addictions i.e.) legal or illegal drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, and sexual
issues.
Think, why would people need to rely on something harmful to
their bodies to give them peace? What
has happened in their lives or is currently ongoing that would make these
people feel like they need to escape reality if only for a moment? Would you really want to share confidential
information with this person in the hopes of getting useful feedback? Has this person really proven that he or she
can handle stress? Nervous, worried, and
impatient relatives aren’t always trustworthy and they too have a time limit on
how long they stay quiet about juicy information. The thoughts of what you said tend to come up
frequently in a nervous person’s mind and sometimes it can be hard for them to
keep a secret.
Seven. The so-called
Christian who brags about being a child of God yet he or she is a slave to sin.
Typically the believer who has a rollercoaster ride of a
relationship with his or her Creator is a gossip. For whatever reason, he or she will lie or
exaggerate about things that they have trouble dealing with especially if you
are doing well in life, but he or she is not.
These people will also falsely share information about God in ways that
best suit them or those they are trying to impress. It is best to trust in God and read the Bible
for yourself, instead of believing a backsliding believer or unsaved man or
woman with details of your life.
By identifying which relatives are untrustworthy while reflecting on the harmful things they have done to you and others in the past, will
keep you from being drawn into unnecessary conflict with these people. Most of all, you will be less likely to share
your personal business with these individuals.
Nicholl McGuire is the owner of this blog, author of
Say Goodbye to Dad and
Tell Me Mother You're Sorry and a
inspirational public speaker on YouTube.
Nicholl McGuire Media
NM Enterprise 7
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