Saturday, January 30, 2016

Having Problems with Mom, Dad and a Partner?

When it comes to dealing with parental issues and partner woes, I recommend several of my books to fellow friends and family members.  I have had highs and lows with all three and spend time online sharing tips with networks on various sites.  Let my work inspire you to obtain the freedom you so desire.  See here: Self Help Guides

Friday, January 29, 2016

The Parent Who Believes His or Her Children Could Do No Wrong

Some people you just hate to invite over your home especially when they behave rather strange when it comes to their children and practically worship the ground that their children are walking on.


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Thursday, January 28, 2016

Your Partner is Close to His or Her Family But You Not So Much

When you are involved with someone who really enjoys the company of his or her family a little more than you do, the last thing you want to do is hurt him or her, so you go along to get along month after month or year after year until one day a light bulb goes off, "I don't want to keep doing this! I really want to do something different this year." If resentment is mixed with anger once you arrive to this revelation, those emotions are sure to bring confusion for yourself and/or household, because for so long you had chose to do some things to appease someone else.


One should never obligate his or herself to go somewhere he or she rather not just because the individual doesn't want to hurt a partner's feelings. What about yours?...


I remember the looks on faces of wives and girlfriends of relatives who were uncomfortable, upset about something, and just wasn't in the mood to be around family. But their pushy partners insisted that they come around. You could tell with some of these women they had been arguing. I recorded one with a video camera during a Thanksgiving family event say when asked by a relative, "Why are you both late? I thought you weren't coming?" She responded with, "We won't get into that." It was clear she was not going to share a story that would embarrass her or cause further discord between her and her partner. Later that same day, there were some details given by the girlfriend that proved the couple did have a major disagreement prior to their arrival. Another girlfriend of a different relative visiting her boyfriend's family didn't look that comfortable being with kin either at the same event. She said very little and smiled infrequently.


I observed one more relative's girlfriend seated with her daughter. The pair remained in a different room spending much of their time away from the others and both were very quiet and depressed looking despite all the laughter going on around them. Neither of these women I mentioned were in happy relationships and the men appeared to fake it as well. One girlfriend soon broke up with her partner after that family event and the other had been a victim of domestic violence showing up one day with the evidence on her face.

One issue that many people have to deal with when saying "yes" to holiday invites, when they really mean "no," is they hope to pacify partners and look good before the eyes of family. But oftentimes the "act" backfires, because if the person becomes offended by someone or something at the family event, guess who the person is going to blame? You guessed it, his or her mate for bringing them. One's hidden aggression just might come out for all to see if the relationship is rocky.

"Why did you bring me to this? You know how your family is. You know we aren't on the best of terms. That's why I didn't want to come in the first place!" an offended companion yells. Then what might the partner retort, "No one said you had to come. You could have stayed your a$$ home!"

Now it is World War III in the family home, because the couple is stressed. Being around family has its nerve-racking moments. Yet, this isn't an issue for many decent families, but there are plenty who do go through much due to unresolved past problems and controlling relatives.

Book excerpt taken from Should I Go to the Party by Nicholl McGuire

Tuesday, January 26, 2016

Family Blog Owner Nicholl McGuire Interviews with Smashword

An author, inspirational speaker, wife and mother, Nicholl McGuire, also the owner of this blog, showcases her family related eBooks on Smashwords.  The website promotes Indie book authors.  Here, Nicholl answers questions related to her book writing experience and other thoughts about publishing.  Nicholl's Smashwords Interview Enjoy!


Sunday, January 24, 2016

Low Contact - No Contact with Relatives, Friends - Video Dailymotion

Low Contact - No Contact with Relatives, Friends - Video Dailymotion: Crazy, manipulative, and miserable relatives that you have grown weary of don't have to remain in your inner circle. You shouldn't have to deal with any form of abuse coming from family members and friends. The speaker, Nicholl McGuire, is the author of many books and shares insightful audio around the web. Feel free to subscribe or purchase a book related to your issue.
Nicholl McGuire http://www.facebook.com/nichollmcguiremedia

Family Articles by Nicholl and videos http://familyarticlesbynicholl.blogspot.com

Nicholl is the author of the following books:

Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/575764

Say Goodbye to Dad https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/554313

Tell Me Mother You're Sorry https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/549977

Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic https://www.createspace.com/3437273

Face You Foe http://faceyourfoe.blogspot.com

When Mothers Cry https://www.createspace.com/3393499 http://whenmotherscry.blogspot.com

Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com /3332346 http://laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com

Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/b/904839-floral-beauty-on-a-dead-end-street

Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/b/3113926-spiritual-poems-by-nicholl http://spiritualpoemsbynicholl.blogspot.com

Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Forgiveness + Love = Peace

You can do it, forgive.  Simply let go of the need to want to pay someone back for hurting you.  Don't hold on to the fault, but also don't play into the hands again of a broken person either.  Love the soul contained within the body.  Although wounded, God loves the individual anyway.  When you simultaneously love and forgive, there you will find peace.  -- Nicholl McGuire


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