7 Signs a Parent or Grandparent is Just Not into You and Your Family

When one feels like he or she is not welcome in a family, it can be difficult to believe this especially around the holidays.  Sometimes it is assumed that because it is a holiday season everyone will treat you and your family well, but this isn't always the case.  Unresolved issues, past disputes, gossip, lies, and more will keep some relatives from connecting with those they deem trouble-makers.  But how can you tell if the family appears like they are polite and welcoming even though you have a feeling they don't care for you and others?

One.  Kinfolk (including a partner or exes relatives) expresses no interest in you or your family's holiday celebrating.

Two.  The relatives explain to you why they will not be buying gifts this year, yet you find out that certain family members received gifts.

Three.  You or children may have got something from them, but it wasn't much or needed.  They didn't bother to ask you what you could use.

Four.  You find out that a parent or grandparent has repeatedly talked negatively about you to your siblings and other family members.

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Five.  They don't bother to call or come around whether during a holiday season or not.

Six.  When you speak to them or see them out on the street they don't bother to ask about your family.

Seven.  They are not helpful or kind when you and your family are in need.

After years of dismissing signs, at some point you come to the realization that you are the one who is reaching out to relatives even when they are not very nice, generous, or appreciative of you and your family.  In time, your efforts begin to diminish, sometimes this is noticed and relatives might accuse you of acting indifferent.  However, you know the truth.  Safeguard your children from tension filled atmospheres and negative family members.

Nicholl McGuire is the owner and contributor of this blog.